Let me set the stage by saying: as I write this my baby is one week old , curled up on my chest, passed out, milk drunk, and breathing with her mouth open just like my husband. I look at her face and cannot imagine that it is even remotely possible to love her more than I already do. She is the spitting image of my husband, my best friend in the entire world, and myself, what more can I ask for. We often discuss how amazing it is that the two of us were able to create this tiny human together!
Having a baby has been a huge change for my husband and I to say the least. Before the baby came, we were able to sleep whenever we wanted, come and go as we please, and not have to worry about much. After all, it is a huge life change and it is so easy to be overcome by stress as these things are happening and even easier to forget about your needs or your partners needs as you are fulfilling the needs of this tiny human.
I made a promise to myself as I started this journey that I would not forget about my own wellbeing, my husband’s wellbeing, and our marriage as we sorted out what this would look like for us. I think too often when life spins out of control our own wellbeing is the first thing that goes.
When I first found out I was pregnant I decided I would continue to workout, eat well, and continue life as normal, with some restrictions of course, in order to ensure that I was still caring for myself. Of course I heard much push back from many people around me on the lifestyle I had chosen,but that didn’t matter to me, what mattered most was that I was taking care of myself.
Fast forward ten months and the birth actually wasn’t that bad compared to some of the horror stories I’ve been told by other moms. My doctor told me that one of the reasons why the delivery went so well was because of the way I cared for myself in pregnancy .
How will I continue to make myself these promises?
If you are not at your best then who is going to be able to take care of the ones that you love? Don’t convince yourself that taking that extra long shower, going to the gym, splurging on something at the mall, taking a night out with your husband, or throwing on some make-up is selfish or a waste of your time. You need to care for you, first and foremost, before you can effectively care for others.
As a new mom it is so easy to forget about yourself, but remember if you do not take care of you who is going to?
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