Mental Toughness to face fears and go after dreams

Nearly three years ago today, I made the decision to leave the Marine Corps.   After deployments to Iraq and Afghanistan and 10 years of faithful service to the country and corps, it was one of the toughest decisions I ever had to make.

With over 10 thousand dollars in debt, no job lined up, and no true sense of direction, I packed up my things, drove across America, and embarked on a new journey in life.   For the first time, I was on my own, with no one to tell me what to do or where to be, and I was going to have to learn to use what the Marine Corps taught me in order to overcome the obstacles that lie ahead. Marine Corps Operation, 2011 Southern California

Shortly after I arrived home, I began graduate school at Southern New Hampshire University to study business.  What I lacked for real-time business experience, I made up for in areas of leadership and self-discipline, and classes proved to be relatively easy.

I know some of you might be asking…how does 50 thousand dollars in debt debts equal self-discipline?

Well, you are exactly right… it doesn’t, but I’m not talking about financial discipline.  I’m talking about the mental toughness and fortitude it takes to face life head on and conquer the bitch, which is why I am in the place I am today.

This same mentality has been the secret of many successful people,  and today I am going to share with you how I used mental toughness to get what I want out of life.

Whether you believe it or not, this very same mentality lies deep within you.

The question is, are you willing to face challenges to get to the top?

Or, are you like most people who settle for just being comfortable?

 Back to my story…

Almost a year had passed since I left the Marines,  bills were falling behind, credit card debt was piling up, and I was unemployed.   I was on the fast-track to nowhere, and I needed to do something in order to prevent myself from going bankrupt.

I called a friend in Afghanistan and was able to score a contract job for one year. Although I told myself that I never wanted to go back to Afghanistan, I made my way overseas for one last time to get my life back together.

Crappy food, shitty internet, and substandard living conditions were not going to stop me.

I continued on with my education, went to the gym at least 6 times a week, sometimes even twice a day, and within months I was back to Marine shape and I felt incredible.

Time passed very quickly, and with half my contract done and only 5 classes till graduation, I started to apply for consulting firms and other business firms that were hiring.

At the time, I still had no clue what I wanted career-wise and thought it would be easy to get into the consulting world with an MBA and my experience as a Marine.

My theory proved me wrong, and in came rejection letter, after rejection letter.

I even paid a professional company to help write my resume, cover letter, and provide me with emails of recruiters to the top 100 firms to work for. Still, I got no bite, as every week I got emails stating I was not qualified due to lack of experience.

Apparently, having an MBA with real-world leadership experience and seeing over 40 countries did not count for enough experience, but I digress.

How fitness shaped my life….

After shift one day, I headed to the gym like I did every day, and in the midst of a workout, I smiled and thought “fitness has been part of my life for the last decade, it is the one thing I truly enjoy and do not mind sharing information from time to time, so why not make fitness a career”.

All I could think about was helping people overcome lifestyle challenges by approaching life from a healthy standpoint.

It was at that exact moment I stopped applying to consulting firm after consulting firm and realized I did not want to be a slave for 60+ hours a week and started perusing a fitness career.

Want to know the really cool thing about fitness?

 Almost virtually anyone can become fit!

The Marine Corps taught me that as a professional warrior and athlete, fitness is a way of life. Being physically fit is an essential part of combat readiness and an indispensable aspect of leadership.

When you take the time out of your busy schedule to demonstrate the self-discipline and personal commitment required to gain and maintain a high level of physical fitness, it shows that you too have what it takes to conquer life’s battles.

This may sound foreign for some of you and may be second nature for the rest, but if you do not take care of your body, then you are destroying your self-esteem and confidence.

Having a confident body is one of the easiest things you can do because you control the outcome.

Take a moment to think about your body and how you treat it?

Are you wearing sloppy clothes?  Do you eat what you want simply because you say it’s convenient? How about your hair, is it messy or unkept? Are your nails trimmed?

If you answered yes to any of the above, it is a sign that you are subconsciously telling yourself that you are not CONFIDENT!

However, if you work out (even though it’s a pain in the ass), partake in a healthy diet, and take care of the way you look, you are demonstrating to your subconscious mind that you are CONFIDENT and that you are worth it!

Think about it for a second, ever get a new set of threads, or go the gym and start a program which in turn led to people telling you that you look great?

It is because you are radiating confidence and showing people that you actually give a shit about life.

Being here, already says that you are willing to change, and that speaks highly of you, as most people are not willing to make that change!  Or maybe you just want some kick ass information, and that is ok too!

Change is not going to be easy, but I promise …when you prevail, you will have a sense of pride that will forever define confidence and view life in ways you have never viewed before!

So, throw away those nasty habits right now and join me on a fun-filled journey of life, as I offer advice about fitness, life, leadership, and much more!

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