Lessons from a Three Week Old Parent

Just over three weeks ago this beautiful little girl came into our lives. I couldn’t be happier. I love watching her as she grows and smiles but I truly love watching her little personality come to life. Not only do I learn more and more about her as each day passes but I learn more and more about myself. I am certainly not a parenting expert by any means, just ask my friend Danielle who has been the recent recipient of all questions baby, silly and complex, but I will say that I have learned quite a few important lessons in just this short amount of time.

  1. If You Don’t Have Patience It Will Come
    • I certainly do not consider myself the most patient person by any means. I can tell you that during the last few months of my pregnancy I was anything but patient, I felt like a fuse ready to go in a moments notice. It is so easy to get frustrated. Let me paint the picture: the baby is crying for food, the dog needs to go out, the house is a mess, you are HANGRY, and to make this even more fun it is 2:00 AM. I have been in this situation numerous times, I remember thinking that I wasn’t going to make it through the night but guess what I did. When I feel my patience start to go because I cannot figure out what this tiny being could possibly want at 2:00 AM I look into her crying eyes. I am the only thing this human has, she is scared, in a new environment, and adapting to what life is like. I think that is a lot for anyone to handle, if she gets fussy how can you blame her, take a deep breath, it will pass.
  2. Life Is Far Too Short
    • Since Melina has been born everyone has told me to enjoy every moment, as I said in a few blog posts ago, enjoy the process. Yes, these nights of crying and no sleep suck, they really do but one day I am going to wish that I could rewind back and have these days all over. These issues are so small compared to the issues we may eventually face as parents. Cue sappy country songs here! I find myself listening to Darius Rucker‘s “It Won’t Be Like this for Long” on repeat. I am sure my husband can relate to this first stanza.

He didn’t have to wake up, he’d been up all night
Lying there in bed and listening to his newborn baby cry
He makes a pot of coffee, he splashes water on his face
His wife gives him a kiss and says it’s gonna be okay
It won’t be like this for long
One day we’ll look back laughing at the week we brought her home
This phase is gonna fly by, so baby just hold on
It won’t be like this for long

    Fast forward to later in the song and let the tears flow

Someday soon she’ll be a teenager
And at times you’ll think she hates him
Then he’ll walk her down the aisle
And he’ll raise her veil
But right now she’s up and crying
And the truth is that he don’t mind
As he kisses her good night
And she says her prayers
He lays down there beside her
‘Til her eyes are finally closed
And just watching her it breaks his heart
‘Cause he already knows
It won’t be like this for long
One day soon that little girl is gonna be
All grown up and gone
Yeah this phase is gonna fly by
He’s trying to hold on
It won’t be like this for long

Life is too short to rush the process. Enjoy the crying, the diapers, the cluster feeding, one day you will wish you could go back and enjoy it!


3. Appreciation for My Own Parents

Alright mom, if you are reading this get out your tissues! Being a parent is hard: long hours, no sleep, no days off, no thank yous. So why do we do it? Who chooses this? We do this out of sheer, unconditional love. I always knew that I was so loved by my parents, but being a parent now, I can finally understand what my parents felt when my brother and I arrived into the world, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! 


Rewind to being pregnant, the anticipation of meeting little Melina was almost too much to contain. I wanted to see who she would look like, who she would become, and hold her. My parents felt all of that for me. This all seems so small but feeling this as a parent and understanding that my parents felt all of these things when pregnant with me is just overwhelming. I was their little girl. The little girl they wanted to settle for nothing but the best, be the best she can be, and become a strong, independent woman, all things I want for Melina. I will say I was a good kid and never took them for granted but it makes me apologetic for any hell I ever put them through, whether it was sixth grade math class with the worst teacher ever or a terrible high school boyfriend that never seemed to go away. I can’t help but feel full of nostalgia, remembering all of the amazing things my parents did for me and hoping I can be half that to my child. I could go on and on but the bottom line is whether you are a parent or not, appreciate your parents, they put up with you from birth and were key to your survival. Don’t forget that!


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